Part 2 of my question…..?

I almost always find her at their kitchen table with my neighbor chatting away. My neighbor tells me how much she appreciates the visits since she’s always wanted to have a little girl. When they’re not ‘talking’, they’re always out in my neighbor’s back yard gardening. I ask them what they talk about and my neighbor said, just about anything. My daughter likes to ask her a lot of questions, from sewing to medicine. Pretty random stuff. My child gets along well with ‘old’ people too. I asked her if she had a ‘best’ friend this year, and she said ‘no’. She said all the girls in her class like to talk about makeup and school dances and barbies, she thinks it’s boring. We constantly buy her ‘scientic stuff’ like yesterday she begged for a ‘triop’ kit. It’s a scholastic ‘undersea university kit’ in has a book about oceanography and a little triop (sea monkey like ) kit. She’s not interest in ‘toys’, dolls don’t hold her attention more than a day, except for a tiny blue bear, she doesn’t like stuffed animals. Anyway, her grades have been slipping, her teacher says she’s bright but stubborn.
My daughter seems to be developing a thing for being stubborn. She’s refusing to do her assignments or taking too long to do them and is ‘daydreaming’ in class. When she was in first grade she excelled in math, she had no problem learning basic multipication or division. Now it seems like she’s zoning out when i try to explain things to her. I could show her 100x’s how to do a math problem (so can her teacher and my wife), and she won’t ‘get’ it. She’s sloppy when she does finally do her homework. Her teacher says that it could be adhd or add…My neighbor says she could be gifted. My mother in law said it could be ocd, since she’s terrified of making a ‘mistake’ and sometimes refuses to try to do something she doesn’t think will come out ‘perfect’.
She way above grade level in reading, she loves anything and everything she thinks is ‘scientific’. She loves art, and is pretty good. She’s even started combining the two, I know this may come across as weird but, one of her fav. books to check out at the school library is a human biology book. Remember she’s in 2nd grade, this book has pictures and drawing of the inside of the human body. Today she was looking at the chapter that has human reproduction. She drew the ‘sperm’, and she knows what they are and what they do. She also drew a human sceleton. She knows about preganancy because my wife broght her a children’s biology book that had an ‘x ray’ feature to it. You slid the paper ‘flash light’ behind the page and you could ‘see’ the inside of a person’s body, as well as men, women, pregant women. My daughter has a pretty good understanding of how the human body works. It does seem to me that she is a little obsessive compulsive since she latches on to an idea and it takes over
She starting to tell us that she doesn’t think she’s smart. She’s VERY hard on herself. We talked to her teacher and councilor but that was no help. I think my child has a different way of seeing things, and a different way of learning. I really wanna find out what’s going on with her so we can find a teaching style that would help her along with subjects she’s having trouble in. We tried teaching her for short periods of time, 10 minutes, than with a break to obsorb the knowlege before trying again. It didn’t work. I don’t know if she’s just stubborn, if it’s a learning disability, or what. I don’t want to have to put her on add or adhd medication since it could affect her creativity, something she truely enjoys. (her fav. store is Michaels) Any ideas of what’s going on with my child and what I can do for her??